“Telling the neighbors or not. How much secrecy to maintain.
How to explain an absence. Will they loot the minute you leave.”- Brulen
If your leaving under duress they probably will be in trouble as well. I can see where they might want to go with you, and when you say no they will follow you like a lost dog.
Leaving good supplies behind would stink, but staying and potentially dying would be worse. Planning a cache close to the house for this purpose seems like a good idea.