Leopard, I read the articles you posted. Very sobering.
dorette, you and other white South African parents are in a very difficult position. In SA your children face declining opportunties and increasing risk to their very safety. Leaving SA brings with it separation from everything they have ever known, and perhaps economic hardships vs your current situation. Leaving SA also brings with it the possibility of much greater opportunities and improved personal security. There is perhaps no one right answer but from afar it is hard to see how staying in SA is going to be the best choice for the long term. Many college students come to the US and never return home after their visa expires. The same must occur in other countries. Were they to marry in the US they’d get permanent resident status and in a few years citizenship.