74, I agree with you in principal. There are times when it just will not work.
When I tell one of my troops to do something I expect compliance. Once I had a member of my group bad mouth me to others because of the order I gave. When that person came back from completing that task I took her aside. What I stressed was that I expect my order to be accomplished. If there were problems or questions then complete the task and come back and talk to me.
Complement in public and correct in private.