IMHO and belief, God granted us each free will. You are free to choose with whom you chose to associate, with whom you choose to call your ‘family’, with whom you choose to do business…and on. Your relaltive’s choice to be pacifist is simply their choice. Hard as it ma be for you, that is their choice and obviously they are willing to bear the consequences s they see and believe them to be. All anyone can do, relatedor not isto follow their own individual beliefs and perhaps hope, by example, their ‘way’ (that is different) sparks different thought process/possibility in another. Do what you feel and believe is right, perhaps if time and circumstance allows plan for the aiding of others, and; hard as it may be,…understand and accept what other’s beliefs, should you emain in their company, may mean for you and your personal survival.