For my wife and I it’s reading and talking. As a psychotherapist, her days are long and filled with helping people to cope and deal with life’s struggles. When she comes home, we talk and talk some more. We discuss current events, the kids and grandkids, what went on in my day. Anything to step away from her workday.
I learned during my time in the service, that when I face a stressful situation, I get very quiet and still. It’s only afterwards that the shaking and tremors start. Fortunately for me, once I get past that, I am usually in good shape, with a healthy perspective of what I experienced.
Tukie2: You have my deepest sympathy. The battle your husband fought was a battle that was more painful than any physical pain.