74, his mother recently admitted to me (and herself) that she has been an enabler. I was clear to her that I was not going to help him financially as that would only be shielding him from his bad choices and he’d never learn, that I will not be an enabler. If he wants advice I’m glad to give it but I’m not otherwise wasting my time being he hasn’t listened to anything else. I saw yesterday when I helped him move that she’s not ready to do any tough love herself.
So, if I see the SHTF starting, I will not be calling him to hightail it to my place.