Sympathize with you concerning your nephew. My eldest son, has struggled for the past 20 years with alcoholism. In and out of rehab, working, not working. Everyone knows the drill. I worry about him a lot. But, one day I realized that I could only do so much. I was working harder at his recovery than he was. Today, I pray and help where he will let me. My other two kids worry about there brother and do what they can to help him. We all embrace him with love, but also know he must stand on his own. We will keep your nephew in our prayers.